Adventures of Jin & Friends

Q:Have you ever thought of giving up? If so then how did you force yourself to continue? Uhm.... I'm sorry at the moment I do not even know how to comfort myself T_T

Anonymous

Hi there. I hope you were able to read this post.

That aside, I do hope you know it’s normal for absolutely anyone to get depressed. I do know what it feels like to be in that place. And I know it’s easier said than done but you really just need to hang on.

I’m not sure how you got to where you are, but I hope it helps to say that we’re all bound to make mistakes. If you made one, own up to it. If other people wronged you, do something about it. The things is, we also have the power to make things better for ourselves. Learn from the bad things that happen. Make it so you can look back at what you did wrong and be thankful that it led you to something good.

Go outside and spend time with people. It can be pretty destructive to hole yourself up and wallow in negative emotions. Talk to your friends. They won’t judge you and will be happy to be there for you if they understand friendship.

There are also things you can do alone. I found a lot of solace in music. Sometimes it just helps to hear what you feel in your heart being sung by someone else so you feel a little less alone. Songs that immediately come to mind are by My Chemical Romance. (I’m so predictable.)

You can try starting with Famous Last Words

I find this part particularly cathartic:

Is it hard understanding

I’m incomplete

A love that’s so demanding

I get weak

And the chorus is extremely empowering:

I am not afraid to keep on living

I am not afraid to walk this world alone

Honey if you stay, I’ll be forgiven

Nothing you can say can stop me going home

You can follow that up with Welcome To The Black Parade

My anthem:

On and on we carry through the fears

Disappointed faces of your peers

Take a look at me, ‘cause I could not care at all

Do or die, you’ll never make me

Because the world will never take my heart

Go and try, you’ll never break me

We want it all, we wanna play this part

I won’t explain or say I’m sorry

I’m unashamed, I’m gonna show my scar

Give a cheer for all the broken

Listen here, because it’s who we are

I‘m just a man, I’m not a hero

Just a boy, who had to sing this song

I’m just a man, I’m not a hero

I. DON’T. CARE.

We’ll carry on!

And when you feel stronger, SING

Sing it out, boy, you got to see what tomorrow brings

Sing it out, girl, you got to be what tomorrow needs

For every time that they want to count you out

Use your voice, every single time you open up your mouth

Sing it for the boys,

Sing it for the girls

Every time that you lose it, sing it for the world

Sing it from the heart

Sing it till you’re nuts

Sing it out for the ones that’ll hate your guts

Sing it for the deaf

Sing it for the blind

Sing about everyone that you left behind

Sing it for the world

Sing it for the world

The world can be such a crazy ugly place, and if we were to spend all our time thinking about all the bad stuff in it, we’d all be pretty nucking futs.

You need to focus on the things you have to be thankful for. Start small. I used to find comfort even in trivial things like finding a simple chocolate cake that tasted just like I wished it would. The nice feeling of a cool breeze on a hot day. Sometimes I would go for a walk at sunrise and just taking in how beautiful the world looks bathed in morning light.

These little things will add up and get you through, and hopefully soon you’ll find yourself much happier than you thought you could ever be. :)